In spite of all your exploits to stop a break up and make up again with your ex, you might be in reality precipitating the crisis. You could well be stifling the situation further rather than winning back your ex heart.
Check whether you are making any of these break up blunders
When you communicate to your ex-lover that giving up on your relationship is not the best result. Not only does this convince them to leave you, but it also supports their feelings that they were weak enough to get into a relationship with you in the first place.